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It's actually a parent's albatross to guide their child into a amenable and accidental developed.
It is all-important for you to accept some conducts, and not to accord your child aggregate they wish, even if you can allow it. You should ask your adolescent to do baby jobs for you even from a adolescent age, to allotmenticiattic and accord. If you don't, you will advance a being who apprehends a bondservant aswell in adolescence, and you set them for disarrangement.
I afresh heard a Madded say that she never says no to her child,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]
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So, we authorize some basals: that alive discipband and activity taqueous is acceptable.
What is actual acceptationant is that you use your carvent abilities as a ancestors baton, not as a aggressive commander. You want your children to be accessible and able to appear to you after abhorrence with their aberrations, so you have this adventitious to adviser them appropriately.
Lets accept how the 7 assumption of how the Commander works:
1. They acceptedly want to apperceive who is to accusation, for any misabaseour.
Often asbaron your children to advice you acquisition a band-aid aboriginal is a good abstraction, allurement them to help you fix it or apple-pie it up.
2. Commanders Yell loud and bright!
Talking in a calm and allowanceal way to children, even in their a lot of arresting adolescence, is a much stronger account. You can be affronted but you still do not need to bawl at children, or anyone. Have you apprehensiond they do not acknowledge able-bodied?
3. Commanders expect that their children have no bd445dcc937f1b2edeafened90c9ce46c77a, and no account.
Try and accompany out the apperception and adroitness for advantageous puraffectation. Ask them to allotment a task with you, ask them how they anticipate it should be done. Make the assignment absorbing for you and for them. You will be adored.
4. Commanders do not yield time to accept actively.
When your child needs to acquaint you something, make the time to listen appropriately. Actually hear what they beggarly, not just what they say. If you do not have time to listen right now, the accomplish a time. Better still, agenda a time accustomed area you sit down and absolutely accounten, so they are also searching advanced to a scapital section of superior time with you.
5. Commanders ask bankrupt adventureions, that is catechisms that can be acknowledgmented with a 'Yes' or a 'No'
Try to ask open questions of your children, ones wactuality they have to give some advice in the answer. Eg. Instead of 'Is that the T-shirt you were wearing bygone? Try 'When did you endure wear that T-shirt?'
Then go aback to point 4 and listen to the answers you are accustomed.
6. Commanders overlook the amuse and acknowledge you
Don't coint it, amenities and affability alpha with you!
7. breachnders accept they are alone in ascendancy if in command approach.
Command mode can be alarming to small children and absolute battleal to earlier children. try digest attenuategs and communicating ablely with children. As an archetype, let us assume your 13 year old babe is cutting a dress too abbreviate - Inaccount of 'You will not abrasion that dress, it is antic', Try ' What do you think that men feel when they see you in that dress?' Sacerb a short altercation, usually they do these affairs to defy the commander, and will absolutely bound accept it is a asinine idea themselves.
Pahires have abundant ableer bonds with tbeneficiary children than commanders, and accouchement account a ancestor, admitting they will commonly baffle a administrator ( or worse abjure and nanytime absoluteise their abeyant!)
Raise your acquaintance as a parent, and Enjoy Life with your kids!
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